Saturday, April 26, 2008

Since Fundie Mormons Are a Downer, and Since BEM is a Pansy,

and I mean that in a good way. Really. I remember being really impressed as a kid that the flowers called "pansies" were demonstrably the hardiest, outlasting the earliest and coldest snow falls in the unpredictable Montana weather. But, yes, a pansy. In preparation for his immanent descent on our beloved 'burg, I sent him a number of cupcake possibilities (since I tend to promise cupcakes), with a clearly stated imperative that he must choose. Instead, BEM replied, narrowing the list of five to three, and optimistically enjoining me to choose for myself. The full text is worth quoting here. Here's what I said:

To: BEM From: Asenath Subject Line: Your options

Cupcakes:

Root beer float

S'mores

Orange Chocolate Pudding

Mexican Hot Chocolate (since Q insists)

Margarita

You must choose. No halfsies.
Here's what he said:

Man, those all sound pretty amazing.

I guess I would go with either the Mexican Hot Chocolate, Root beer float or Margarita. You make the final call.

Aweeeesome.

As though, god love him, this helps me.

While I don't want at all to give anyone the impression that I ultimately will not just decide, regardless of what anyone (though I love you all so) has to say on the matter--cause I totally will, and it will no doubt (as BEM probably suspected all along) be simply a function of my caprice and whimsy--I thought I'd stage a poll.

What should I make?

Option A: Root Beer Float Cupcakes.
These are an unknown quantity. But they were rated in the top ten of all these vegan cookbooks! Plus: awesomeness?

Option B: Mexican Hot Chocolate Cupcakes.
These are a favorite. Reliably delicious, and they make everyone crazy. I've made them twice: Once with a fluffy, chocolate mousse topping, and once with regular chocolate frosting. If I made them again, I'd do the mousse. The blog that this links to shows the cupcakes with the suggested sprinkling of powdered sugar, cocoa, and cinnamon. I really think the mousse adds a fabulously outrageous dimension, though.

Option C: Mucho Margarita Cupcakes
My (relatively) recently acquired addiction to tequila (thanks a lot, BEM, totally your fault, by the way) makes these particularly attractive. Although, I'll admit to a little trepidation in that I don't know where the fuck I'd find the special, chunky multi-colored sugar that I really really need to have these be as awesome as they should be. I'm a crazy perfectionist like that. Whatever.

Option D: Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Brownies.
For our inner and insatiable fat kid. These are a late entry, but I've only recently discovered. My desire for them is only met part of the way by my desire to not eat them all. Good angel, bad angel.

By the way, I made the VCTOTW green tea cupcakes for one of Q's meetings. They were totally awesome, and I've compelled Q to take pictures. Hopefully, I'll have one forthcoming. In the meanwhile, please take a moment and weigh in on my (delicious) quandary.

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Why I Heart Dan Savage, et al

We've all heard about the FLDS scandal, yes? I've been following it with the usual interest in American spectacle and grotesquery. There's much to be said. The most recent news, as far as I'm aware, is that government and state agencies are currently trying to dis-entangle the dramatically convoluted genetic lines of this particular band of fundies. It's fucked up in more than one way and from more than one direction. On the one hand, fundamentalists...yikes. Double triple yikes. All the freaking way. Scary, scary shit. On the other, I can't get behind this hysterical desire to simply figure out which sperm went to which egg, as though if we could only discover the truth of the heterosexual nuclear family in the midst of all this unwieldy, patriarchal heterogeneity, that order would return and we could all feel better about any possible future solution. We're all about opening up the straightjacket definition of the family, right? Every child deserving a mother and a father, and this being the key to normalcy, health, and success, blah blah blah. But raffling pubescent girls off to crusty older men, and shuffling younger men off to the suburbs of Utah cities so that they won't be in competition with the aforementioned crusties for the aforementioned girls? Or, not raffling, but "joining in spiritual marriages" with said crusties and popping out as many babies as their bodies can handle.

Anyway, I've been wondering wondering wondering, where on the earth the mainstream, non-polygamous LDS folks are on all of this. Where's the public statement--disavowing, supporting, remaining neutral, WHATEVER? After all, these are the majority of the folks who will be living this one down in posterity. The FLDS, after all, will have retreated to some compound in the middle of nowhere, filled with bolts and bolts of gingham cloth and hair gel (have you seen the 'dos?), so they won't be dealing with the social backlash. Assuming there is one. And then, in the midst of all this wondering I was doing, comes Savage with this post on the Slog. If you love me, you'll read it. It's short. I promise.

Monday, April 21, 2008

OMFG! LMAO!

Sorry for the annoying header. I couldn't quite come up with something better. Also, fair warning to b: This is going to be a "my life this week" "daily log" of boring bullshit blog entry, of the variety the aforementioned notoriously disdains. Correct me if I'm wrong, b. Otherwise, you all should bear with me. Or, you know, fuck off or whatever.

My glorious subject matter? A busy week. Twisting in the wind. So much potential rejection, so little time. Something along those lines.

The short version, to spare you all the banal, paper-pushing details, is that I've applied for a bunch of stuff recently and should have a good idea soon whether or not I'll be successful in any of these. In the meantime, the experience rather intensifies the usual sensation that my diss director assures me is "the quintessential dissertation experience." In other words, my sense of acute adriftness is dramatically heightened by dwelling even more in the unknown. Don't get me wrong, I'm not confused or anything about the nature of adulthood and all the void-twisting that it naturally entails. For a salient example, see my last blog entry. This is slightly less inter-personal, though, and more...professional? Pseudo-apocalyptic? Now I'm (obviously) exaggerating, but my point remains. And this is my blog, so I can whine about whatever I want to.

The upside, and there is a substantial one, is that Spring has finally arrived in Western New York. Daffodils are pushing their insistent heads up all over the places, and all the trees are covered with tight little leaf buds. The 'llonians are going batshit crazy, of course. Somebody at my (extra) place of employment told me the other day that he'd driven by at night, and it looked like "Disneyworld had come to B-lo"! I would think he was exaggerating were it not for the ice cream spills that now fragrantly coat the sidewalk and the cigarette butts (and a bra?!) mingled amid the aforementioned daffodils on the side of the building. So, indeed, Disneyworld, or something. It is beautiful, though. Q and I have been staggering around the city, blinking at the sun like albino moles. Joyously de-winterizing the house. Q has even torn into her Spring ritual of touching up every painted surface that has somehow been marred by our cold-weather hibernation, rat-nesting kind of activities. I'm planning a garden, which I think will consist exclusively (though I've not quite decided) of kale and tomatoes. How awesome would that be? We also have plans to build a compost bin, which can apparently be done cheaply and with minimal effort with a bit of galvanized chicken wire and some stakes of some sort.


Also, I'm making green tea cupcakes for Q's meeting, and plan to steal some of them. My friend from work is having an art opening that I'm looking forward to. And it's the last week of school. Rock fucking on, right? As soon as I grade that last stack of portfolios, I'm free from teaching for the foreseeable future. Super sweet.

Funny story, the aforementioned friend with the art opening featured in a dream I had recently. It was the bizarrely good kind. He and I were for some reason being forced to participate in a gender norming test of some sort. The first test fell to me, and consisted of my demonstrating how well I could iron his pants. There was an audience and everything. The awesome part is that he and I both thought the whole thing was so ridiculous and funny, that we couldn't even participate because we were laughing so hard. Ever have a dream where you're laughing your ass off? Like full, belly laughs that come from your guts? Anyway, that was my dream.


Feel free to rate the banality.

Friday, April 11, 2008

Adulthood

Is a howling wasteland where BFFs move to Chile and totally fuck off. That is all.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Insect Reflection

I've been staying away from my blog for a while, entertaining my mom, and trying to stay out of trouble. Kind of. Seriously, my mom was just here for a week, and we had a good visit as such things go. Typically, our visits start out good, and then we go through a kind of protracted rough patch in the middle where I think we're driving each other absolutely bonkers, and then things turn a corner and the visit ends on a high note (typically lubricated with lots of liquor). I wish, sometimes, that I could verify the rough patch that I always perceive. This is always my moment of hermeneutic anxiety in which I'm wondering whether I'm being as big of an asshole as I think I am. Can it be that my skills of intonation are so superb that she just doesn't realize I'm going crazy, or is she just gracefully choosing to ignore the whole dynamic? I can never tell. Q assures me that there's something weird that happens, and some instances make me feel more confident that I'm perceiving what I am than others.

For example, we're sitting at a cafe, having breakfast, and she starts talking about politics. Actually, she begins by asking me what I think about the war, the presidential candidates, and Guantanamo Bay. The latter, she's convinced, is a huge secret and that we're not even allowed to know why we even have a military base in Cuba. When I try to answer by talking about the history of U.S. interference in elections in other nations, though, her face slams shut like a door. Somehow, I've been a jerk. Inappropriate. I'm not speaking to her question. When I stop talking, freaked out by her response, she continues where she left off with the same interrogatory tone, *as though* we're having a discussion that we absolutely can't have. I get, in some way, that this is because my mom dislikes the particular way in which we all tend to talk to one another about politics, the world, our lives, whatever. She believes, again in some way I can't quite articulate, that disagreement is fundamentally hostile and negative. I learned this lesson the hard way when I had a little too much fun debating some ridiculous point with one of my uncles. My mom was horrified at my inability to simply get along with people.

In my thirties, this tendency to simply be difficult is considerably exacerbated by being vegan. Queer-vegan-academic = the most difficult of all. In this economy, what is good is flexibility. The willingness to accommodate, to go with the flow. Nothing is political, especially not the Olympics or picking a presidential candidate based on a gut feeling. I'm ending my rant now.

Anyway, bizarrely, this experience, coming as it did on the heels of another recent house guest of ours, has led me to some further (insect) reflections. If you're reading all the blogs, you've heard something about a certain "nerd troll" who stayed with us while checking out the program. I won't belabor the incident further than to comment that she is, indeed, an example of what can happen to nerds who aren't sufficiently reigned in by...oh...social sensitivity, politics, literary history, or even just the pressures of high school. They turn into people like Dob Baly, and I think we all know who I mean. For my purposes, here, I'm going to call her Ardelia Knightley. Ardelia drove us totally crazy. When she first got here, she said she had already been up to campus because she likes to show up places when she isn't expected, "just to see what will happen." (picture a little finger curling up toward the mouth as she says this, in an oddly unselfconscious or allusive way)

All I could think to ask was, "And did anything happen?" What a bizarre take on the world and one's place in it, you know? Yeah, she drove us crazy. There was the scream, of course, but harder than that were the constant difficulties of conversing. The pathological inability to admit any gaps in knowledge. The giddy praises of a particular, archaic meter. The mainlining of tea laced with loads of sugar. The just...plain...weirdness.

My epiphany? To my family, I am Ardelia Knightley.